A question of ettiquette in approaching a neighbor?

topic posted Mon, February 16, 2009 - 7:07 AM by  Diane
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so my neighbors upstairs recently got a puppy. a BIG puppy. and this puppy has a barking issue. that they apparently haven't addressed. i hear them raise their voices about other things here and there. but not once since they got this puppy have i heard NO! from up there

every morning around 6 am the puppy has a barking fit. and while they are at work/school, the puppy barks A LOT when he's alone. i've gotten into the habit or just reaching up and grabbing my ear plugs in the morning. and i can more or less tune out the barking during the day. but thats not the ultimate solution.

i have a sneaking suspicion that us moving downstairs (in november) with a dog, got their kids begging. but the difference is, jiffy is a tiny shih tzu! our apt is plenty of running space for him to tire himself out. there's also a pretty small fenced backyard, which is also quite enough space for jiffy. they take the puppy for plenty of walks on the leash, but i don't know if they ever let him run in the yard. not that i've seen. still only jiffy's tiny paw prints in the snow

i need to approach them about the barking issue. they're not dealing with it, and their impressionable baby is going to become a loud nuissance. the puppy is very quickly becoming a large dog. i'd hate to think that the dog will end up back at a shelter and possibly put down just because of poor breed selection/poor training.

how can i approach our neighbors? i want to be able to help them to train their dog and let them know that a few short leash walks might not be enough exercise for a dog of that size without being insulting. which is difficult, because things like NO! and execrcise seem like such an obvious thing! i support their right to have pets, but i feel like they are completely clueless, and maybe this wasn't the best decision.

does anyone have any experience with tactfully approaching a neighbor about an issue like this?
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Diane
Rochester
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  • Talk to the land lord about it.. You have a right to quiet enjoyment of your premises. I bet you aren't the only one having an issue with this. They may not even realize that the dog barking is an issue. People are often clueless about such things.

    And a puppy barking all the time when its alone is a sign of separation anxiety to which there are many ways to address for the dog's well being and your sanity.
  • Definitely let the neighbors know that their puppy is barking while they are gone! This will help you evaluate how to deal with the other problems...no one likes to be told how to raise their dog so try to stay cool and offer to help them only if they are ready for help!
    good luck!
    Nora :)
  • As a trainer, pet owner and neighbor of poor choices in pets - I recommend you take a few moments and look up a good trainer or two on the Association Of Pet Dog Trainers website (www.APDT.org), a doggy day care, a couple of well references dog walkers, a local low cost spay/neuter clinic and then talk to them. Literally just talk to them - without anger or accusing because this will put them on the defensive. Chances are they realize they have made a bad decision too.
    There is also info on crate training, Kongs and other interactive toys and other things to help bored dogs. You are right in that this will not get better on it's own. It is already a habit and it will take a lot of work. He may very well have the beginnings of Separation Anxiety - which is even more work.
    I have found that being prepared with solutions can help a lot on bridging that uncomfortable place that you have been put in. I also suspect other neighbors will chime in soon too if they are within earshot. I know it is an undue burden on you, but a few hours online is worth the next few months or years of peaceful living. Also - there could be a bad backlash and the landlord tells everyone they can't have dogs - you know that one bad apple theory!
    The San Francisco SPCA has many handouts on their website, most positive trainers will assist you with literature as well. I didn't take a look at where you are, but I can even send you some hand outs if you need them, just let me know.
    Good luck, it's a terrible place to be and a suffering dog.

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